Wife has been seeing my cousin who is young (23)and well built and great looking with big thick cock… past few months and their relationship started to be affair sex …now he is in love with my wife and he is even told my wife that after being with her he has found his happiness and things are progressing well in his personal life as well…thanks to my wife.
He is not aware that wife is seeing other guys ….she doesn’t want to break it to him ….
Recently during Christmas Eve wife hooked up with one of my friends friend who is black mix hunk who has 10+ inch thick cock and very good looking as divorced in our age group of early thirties ….wife wants to make him long term as well, since that Xmas eve they dated couple of times and both times they ended up fucking together …he also is very much interested in long term relationships and this situation he know …i support that and which I encouraged him to make the move to my wife .
Wife now wants cool off with her other bf and make my cousine and her new black lover steady lovers for sometime and see how it goes ….
Dealing with multiple lovers…? How do you all manage
Wife is also flying on vacation with my cousin this Saturday for week, which she committed before seeing her new black hunk. She told the family its work trip …lol
Dealing with multiple loving relationships.
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Re: Dealing with multiple loving relationships.
Where do you fit into all this, it appears your playing a very dangerous game.
Re: Dealing with multiple loving relationships.
Having loving relationships with multiple people requires a great deal of compassion, respect, honesty, inclusiveness, and communication to ensure everyone's emotional needs are recognized and responded to.
Fucking numerous men is comparatively easy for a woman (or a couple). A sexual woman can take as many as she can get into her. Creating and maintaining a loving relationship requires a lot of time to really know the men she is loving and to maintain a loving tie. Caring for them is enormously demanding emotionally.
It is said polyamorists are the ultimate schedulers, because it takes communication, planning, conflict resolution, and flexibility to make sure everyone feels cared for. Without that caring spirit, things can rapidly disintegrate.
And, Desilover, your role as the metamour is critical. Strategically, there are 2 approaches: an open V and a triad. An open V, as the letter's structure reveals, is a relationship in which you and your cousin would have a relationship with your wife but not each other. A triad is one in which there are loving relationships between all 3 of you. If you are in an open V, you need to sit down from time to communicate appreciation, process negative feelings, and engage in active problem solving. If it is a triad, it may be even more complex. If you are looking for a triad with your cousin, you need to answer the question of how loving you want the relationship to be with him. You may just have a cock fetish and enjoy play with your cousin's body, but you may also want a deeper, intimate, caring relationship. Only you can decide what you want to get out of this.
But before planning a poly relationship, you need to support everyone coming clean about what they want and how they feel about everyone being involved. You are just at the threshold of the door you are opening. From your description, you wife is not being candid with your cousin, nor is it clear that she and he are being candid with you about their mutual desires. Your cousin may just want to fuck your wife from time. It may be easy enough to do if he is living with you, but open fucking is a far cry from a polyamorous loving relationship. It may make more sense to let him know about the consensual nonmonogamous relationship you have with your wife, let them explore how good the sexual chemistry is and how well it converts to sexual ecstasy, and wait to see how enduring the connection is between them.
However, without more intimacy and honesty, your wife and you may be experienced by your cousin as manipulating and tricking him into something he wasn't looking for once the truth is sprung on him. Maybe he just likes thinking he's cheating with your wife and getting one over on you. He may not even want to go anywhere something as unconventional as an open V let along a triad. You give no impression of even knowing if he is interested in you as anything other than a biological cousin.
You sound a long way from having a healthy polyamorous union, no matter how much urge to merge is in the air. I just don't see the level of candor and communication needed to establish mutual trust and understanding.
Fucking numerous men is comparatively easy for a woman (or a couple). A sexual woman can take as many as she can get into her. Creating and maintaining a loving relationship requires a lot of time to really know the men she is loving and to maintain a loving tie. Caring for them is enormously demanding emotionally.
It is said polyamorists are the ultimate schedulers, because it takes communication, planning, conflict resolution, and flexibility to make sure everyone feels cared for. Without that caring spirit, things can rapidly disintegrate.
And, Desilover, your role as the metamour is critical. Strategically, there are 2 approaches: an open V and a triad. An open V, as the letter's structure reveals, is a relationship in which you and your cousin would have a relationship with your wife but not each other. A triad is one in which there are loving relationships between all 3 of you. If you are in an open V, you need to sit down from time to communicate appreciation, process negative feelings, and engage in active problem solving. If it is a triad, it may be even more complex. If you are looking for a triad with your cousin, you need to answer the question of how loving you want the relationship to be with him. You may just have a cock fetish and enjoy play with your cousin's body, but you may also want a deeper, intimate, caring relationship. Only you can decide what you want to get out of this.
But before planning a poly relationship, you need to support everyone coming clean about what they want and how they feel about everyone being involved. You are just at the threshold of the door you are opening. From your description, you wife is not being candid with your cousin, nor is it clear that she and he are being candid with you about their mutual desires. Your cousin may just want to fuck your wife from time. It may be easy enough to do if he is living with you, but open fucking is a far cry from a polyamorous loving relationship. It may make more sense to let him know about the consensual nonmonogamous relationship you have with your wife, let them explore how good the sexual chemistry is and how well it converts to sexual ecstasy, and wait to see how enduring the connection is between them.
However, without more intimacy and honesty, your wife and you may be experienced by your cousin as manipulating and tricking him into something he wasn't looking for once the truth is sprung on him. Maybe he just likes thinking he's cheating with your wife and getting one over on you. He may not even want to go anywhere something as unconventional as an open V let along a triad. You give no impression of even knowing if he is interested in you as anything other than a biological cousin.
You sound a long way from having a healthy polyamorous union, no matter how much urge to merge is in the air. I just don't see the level of candor and communication needed to establish mutual trust and understanding.
Sharing your partner is a very loving act. Double her pleasure; double your fun.
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."
Kevin Foster, The Three Marriage Enigmas: ". . . sex with a man other than her husband is simply the most erotic sex possible for a woman."