My first thought was "are those friends guys or gals?" cuz isn't it part of girl code to let them know when their significant other isn't being faithful??
"The clients at my hair salon are all chronically on reddit and they saw this post in the last few hours and all called to cancel their appointments because they just assumed I'm the type of person who would be a ring-stealing biatch." Hahaha yeah right Jenna. That totally happened.
2- NTA, is she crazy? It’s YOUR husband's wedding ring! That ring is litterly a symbol of your union with your husband! Updates- lock the ring in a safe or deposit box and update your will
I would also tell the person receiving it in the will that you never wanted your dil to have it. That way when you die, they are not likely to be pressured to "fix a mistake" because dil is telling them that you promised her she could have it, but didn't fix the will in time
Story 2: Its concerning that Jenna knew about the post like 5 minutes after OP made it. That happened to me once because my ex-husband was stalking me and I made a throw away blog post about finding out that he had a new (barely legal) girlfriend. This is really scary for OP, she needs to figure out what's going on here.
@dillongage Maybe it was before it was their ex husband/seperated but not divorced? Idk If someone's stalkinge I'm gonna want all the info I can and I would be mega weirded out to find out someone was stalking me while they had a new partner.
Story 2: Assuming that the DIL is losing customer's to the reddit post, my theory is that the DIL told some clients about the situation and the reddit post thinking to get some sympathy or confirmation and then was surprised that the clients took OP's side. Karma at its finest.
"I don't want to create tension within the family." Then be assertive! The best way to make sure there's no tension is if everything is clear. You say "No. End of story. Do NOT ask again." Be confident and communication will be way clearer.
Story 2: The only way she'd lose clients over this is if she's actively *telling people* about this, what are the odds random people find a reddit thread with only first names and instantly know who it is rather than the thousands of other people with the same name? She is 100% lying.
Story 4: So the MIL has a history of being physically a busive to children. And is not sorry. Absolutely not. Also, the family saying OP should let it go because the baby is okay... Right. The baby IS okay... this time. If someone kept pushing your child into the street you wouldn't think it's okay because they avoided traffic this time. You'd know they're an ongoing danger.
Story 2: I wouldn’t be surprised if that daughter in law’s plan was to take that ring right to a ‘cash for gold’ place. She’s upset that Reddit is helping convince OP not to hand it over and ruining her con.
The wedding ring……..how dare she! I lost my late husband 5 years ago and I could not and will not let someone have it. My husband and I did paranormal investigations for years together and now when I do them I make sure he’s with me. His ring is on a chain around my neck when my team and I investigate.
Story 7: I hate that OP has let redditors convince her that she failed somehow. If people take ALL the leftovers, they know what they're doing. You take something, you don't take everything. Just because OP and her husband didn't watch over everyone's shoulder and showed a little (unfounded, as it turns out) trust doesn't mean it's their fault people did this. But at least they now know their family will happily leave them in the lurch.
Right? I can't believe people are bashing her for relaxing after cooking 2 full turkeys, 20 lb of mashed potatoes and stuffing plus what ever other fixings and desserts she made. That's at LEAST 24 hours of prep work, still has to clean after the gathering but she should have had to babysit grown ass people to boot? Did hubby or any of the other guests help in any way? Doesn't sound like it.
Not to mention they took back unopened dessert they brought as well. The least you can do is open it, leave some for the host and take the rest. It seems like that person contributed nothing. Plus you dont just take all the food you brought. You leave some for others and for the host. That is just crappy behavior.
Right? OP shouldn't have to supervise to make sure people are showing basic manners. They could've left _at least_ one portion per person at the host's house, but they didn't. Instead, they simply cleared them out! That's honestly such a rude thing to do to the people who hosted and cooked for you.
Leaving the host, especially after having prepared a ton of food themselves, without any leftovers is such bad etiquette. Like as a child I wouldn’t even consider doing something like that and we aren’t some fancy smancey family
Story 2. There are jewelers who can make say a pendant out of the late husband's ring and even her ring mixed in, so she can wear it. I've seen several videos of this being done and it's really lovely
Story 1: If any friend needs permission to break up my relationship if my girlfriend or wife cheats, here it is. That's part of being my friend, I'd trust you to tell me these things, and I will never blame you for telling the truth. That should cover all of the objections from the "friends".
Story 4: Fruit Loops? Even if this was a good idea, why would you use something that sugary? Sounds like she shouldn't be allowed to visit, even with cameras.
That Lila one REALLY confused me after the misreading of OPs grandma's name, "Dalila," with sister naming dog Lila lol. I was like, isn't OP reaching a bit? BTW, I appreciate the text being left up for these wordy reddit stories.
Post 6: why did the husband even have plans to go to a football game so close to your delivery date if he wasn't okay with likely canceling? My best friend wasn't in my wedding last spring because it was 2 weeks before her due date and just too much going on for her to handle with not knowing when she'd go into labor and I completely understood that!
Story 4: My first child was almost entirely bottle-fed, grew like a weed, and fairly early on we had to add cereal into his bottle. That did not mean fruit loops. You are meant to buy very finely ground boxes of cereal powder that you can then mix with the milk or formula.
Wholesome wedding band story time: my parents divorced a decade before this, when I was 9, but they were both really involved in my life and despite them not liking each other much, they made all the efforts in the world to gove me the best life possible. All that to say that their wedding rings did not mean much to them but it did to me. After my dad passed away from cancer, my mom gave me both of their wedding bands, and I turned them into a necklace, with the smaller one attached in the other ring. I also added a little heart in the middle. Now, I always have a part of my family with me
S2: Let's say SIL was losing clients because of this. The only way that would happen is if _she_ went around telling everyone she knows about the post and broadcasting it from her socials. How else would people know a post, that has no real names or location mind you, was about her? Yeah, I call bs and she's just using this to manipulate her husband into turning against Op more. That woman is such a headache, maybe it's for the best that Op gets the silent treatment from her son because maybe she wouldn't have to put up with her.
Story 7: how could anyone consider OP the AH for simply being upset that her guests took all the leftovers? She kept those feelings to herself (other than posting to ask for advice), she did not confront the guests and call them names or shame them, she was merely asking if she was right to feel taken advantage of.
Story 5: relate so hard. I've been calling this my "emergency room" year. Instead of brat summer or even a vintage hot girl summer, i had "hot wheelchair summer". It can be hard to tell how much of your anger is because of the pain or because people are actually being unreasonable and its often easier to blame yourself as the problem because it takes so much energy to defend yourself and you need that energy just to exist. And sometimes the pain and the grief of becoming disabled does make you TAH, it hurts emotionally and psychologically sometimes more than it does physically, you just can't be around intentionally hurtful people, you literally can't survive that kind of energy drain when you're chronically ill. Anyway wish me luck with my ekg and blood tests today lol
Story 2: There is NO WAY a post is making her lose clients unless Jenna herself is telling them about it and admitting her insane and selfish demand. SHE is making herself look bad.
With the food situation- I always hosted & made a lot of food. What I learned, early was to put away the food we wanted to keep and leave what was available to take on the kitchen table (we ate in the dining room). We also provided bags & to go Rubbermaid, but I made it clear, take what you want FROM the kitchen table. Our leftovers were out away. Yes, it was a PITA to do that after all the cooking & serving, but I wanted my own pumpkin pie for breakfast the next day 😅😅😅. Usually people don't mean harm or anything, but they will take home everything if you're not careful & are a good cook.
Woah! Cereal in a bottle for a 4 month old refers to putting a tiny amount of baby rice cereal into the formula to thicken it slightly. NOT FRUIT LOOPS! That is batshit! Omg
Story 6: Look, I like sports, too, but for the love, you've just become a parent. This jerk should have given both tickets to his friend so someone else could go to the game. Sometimes life happens, and is more important than a football game.
Right? Also, the husband cannot be trusted with the kids. What if he is alone parenting them and he is watching a football game on TV. Will he ignore cries from his kids? Will he forget to feed them? Will he hurt them to stay quiet because he cannot watch the game in peace? That is dangerous behavior right there. So many babies die due to parents obsessed with sports or video games.
10:58 OP is not making her look bad. What is happening is that Jenna is whining to her clients about the problem, and every single client is looking at her like a repugnant pile of trash and cutting ties immediately.
Story 5: So the Dad, husband, and other adults know what the mom is doing but didn’t say anything? Won’t lie, I don’t want to assume the husband and dad haven’t addressed this before and want to believe they have possibly tried to mitigate it in some way but yeah they should’ve said something and made it so OP and her children weren’t exposed to this absolutely awful person. Oh yeah OP is NTA obviously. I forgot to say that in the top portion
It's interesting to me that Reddit immediately jumped to OP's mom being a narcissistic abuser, but also humped all over OPs dad for being an enabler, instead of understanding that OP's dad is just as much of a victim of abuse as OP. Can't ahve it both ways Reddit. IO's mom is either an abuser and her husband is a victim, or she is just a weird jerk and the husband is an enabler.
Kitty Cat report from my walks. So i went a different route today and saw this lovely cat on top of a parked car doing its bread impression. Lovely black and white cat where it was black on top and white on bottom with lovely yellow/green eyes
Story #3: If it was real, I would want OP to absolutely use the name she wants and her sister will have to live through OP's daughter outliving her dog and having to hear her dog's name constantly all her life.
Story 2: Dude is the ring some kind of antique or vintage name brand? Is that why she really wants it? I'd love to say she could't want it just to "be closer to the faaaaaaamily" but the stupid is rampant nowadays and unfortunately could just be a hard case of the "gimmie-gimmie's" from an entitled brat who has never heard the word "no."
Story 2: My grandma gave me a ring that my grandpa had made for her after he passed away. I never asked for it, but she wanted to share it with me anyway. I wear it every single day. OP’s DIL is ridiculously out of line. I would have never asked my own grandma for her ring, so why does the DIL think that this is in any way acceptable?
S1: if it’s not a friend’s place to reveal the betrayal, then whose is it? Do they expect her to be cheated on until she finds herself in possession of another girl’s bra or maybe another girl’s STI?
Story 5 my immediate worry for op when her mom was commenting about the smile was "oh no is it a stroke" but no it's just the mom being a biiiitttccchhhh
When you said cereal in the bottle I thought it was baby cereal and I was like oh that’s not bad if your pediatrician has okayed it (we did that with my son) but then you said Froot Loops and I was like wtf😮. Also spanking has been proven over and over again to not work especially on young kids, you hit your kids while also trying to teach them not to hit, its never made sense to me. My grandpa spanked me once for leaving a leash out, and while yes I never did that again, I also never went back to stay a summer with him to be able to leave a leash out.
Story 5: NTA I have a list of things that my mother said to me that I would never say to any child I would have. There are numerous comments about the way I smiled. I rarely take pictures of myself bc all I can think are my mom's comments.
Story 2: It also sounds like Jenna is married already, so she has a ring. I might have been understanding if it was to be her wedding ring, but that doesn't seem to be the case.
Story 2: It would mean more to HER than to OP? Look, she didn't even KNOW OP's husband, I'd bet, and she can get right out of here with that [meow]. Good call on the visual for that one, Vincey. 🤣 Also, I heavily disagree with the comment. Even if it were the husband's child requesting the ring, no. The husband married OP, it's OP's ring to keep and nobody else's unless he willed it to someone else. As for the whole "borrowing" thing, OP would have clearly never seen the ring again. I love when people ask to borrow something and you know full well what their intentions are. Also also, she had no right to even ask. And in case she gets so far as to read comments here, get bonked, Jenna. And the only way she'd be losing customers is if SHE is complaining about it on the job and they're seeing how vile she is.
The DIL claiming to have lost clients due to OP's Reddit post is either lying about it or else the DIL was the one who told her clients about the post thinking they'd all be on her side and instead her clients discover she's a massive AH. Those are the only reasonable conclusions given the available facts. DIL needs to be a better person, because right now, she's failing dismally to be a decent human being.
2, NTA. OP needs to move somewhere else, keep everything in a safe that _ONLY_ *you* have the code to. Maybe even in a bank. Story 6, NTA. Divorce and _either_ full custody *or* 50/50 custody.
Post 1- if someone knew my partner was cheating, or being a dick to servers, or hurting puppies or littering for chrissakes, they better tell me. And I would expect them to tell my partner if I did anything effed up.
Story 2-Once again someone feels entitled to someone else's belongings. I've heard something like this so many dang times involving either blood relatives or people that married into the family. No one, and I mean NO ONE decides what you do with your things besides you. Imagine bullying your MIL or anyone because you decide you want something that they have. Sounds like OP has at least some support, and I hope she stands firm. Do not let anyone take the ring from you OP, or anything else of yours. I have no doubt she would 'lose' it to keep it for herself or sell it because of what she said about the ring. You let it out of your sight you will never get it back. The vultures are starting to fly to see what they can pick from you before your even dead. I agree with another comment about updating your will. OP shouldn't have to lock up her own property though because someone wants to 'borrow' it. Make sure no one else has keys to your home so it doesn't go 'missing' and invest in cameras.
16:05 I mean are we actually surprised? They ended their update with "Thanks for the gold, dear stranger!" Thats the most chronic redditor thing you could ever possibly say. That and Emma was cartoonishly mean.
The second story made me so mad. Who are Jenna or the son to be chastising or guilt tripping OP as if she’s a child acting out??? It’s infantalizing and disrespectful. I’m so offended for OP and it’s not even my family or my ring. Jenna’s also straight up lying about her clients - unless all of her clients are really big fans of Reddit for some reason, there’s no way they found this post and started dropping her unless she told them about that situation and it turned them off for it. This is going to be the entire relationship with Jenna unless someone else becomes her target. She’s a spoiled brat
Cheaters saying "It was just one mistake" is like someone who gathers wood and shaves it with a knife, strikes the knife with flint multiple times until the fire is going, fanning it until it's huge and going "oh no the fire just accidentally happened"
If her husband‘s wedding band doesn’t fit snuggly on her finger, she probably can’t wear it every day, but I’ve seen plenty of examples of memorial pendants being made out of the deceased partners band. All they do is attach a piece to the top of it so that it can stay on a necklace without getting scuffed up by the chain and she could wear it every day
Story 1: I was in the same situation as OP, but I didn't have the wherewithall to film because I was so shocked at the time. It happened in the middle of the day between classes our senior year, where both my friend and her boyfriend were well known as a COUPLE, so the likelihood of the cheater being caught was insanely high. My friend was away that day on a school project, but many, many people knew they were together for a while at that point, and here he was making out with some random underclassman for all to see. I told my friend right away, but she never believed me and married that idiot not long after. They got engaged and married very quickly against both their families' wishes. Low and behold, he cheated on and abused her for years before HE divorced HER and disappeared from her life that he had now ruined. I wish I had pulled out my damn phone.
Normally I listen to Vincey videos in the background while I do other things, but today I'm watching, and with that graphic in the second story, I was not disappointed.
Story 2 - Why would a GIRL want a MAN’S ring?? It’s not like men and women’s rings would fit on each other because of the way they’re designed? I recon she’s planning to pawn it for money or alter it into some other jewellery for herself. Why she wants a men’s piece of jewellery is the real question I’m thinking about.
Story 7: My guess is that the guests assumed because of op and her husband clocking out the guests assumed they already had taken their portion of leftovers
Story 2: The ring is not sentimental to the daughter any more than a toaster her dad bought is. The ring is just pretty and her dad is an excuse. It’s a symbol of the op and her late husband’s love, which means NOTHING to the daughter if she doesn’t even respect her stepmother’s strong connection to it. EDIT: It’s not even the girl’s dad’s? She’s a daughter in law?? What an entitled KOOK!!!
The baby cerael one, I was on grandma's side because when the baby gets older milk isn't enough to fill them so most doctors recommend putting baby cereal in milk so they have something more on their tummy and its a good way to start introducing food. Then I found out the baby was only 4 months, no where near the age for that. And the cereal was fruit loops, something very sugary and (at least here in America) the dyes can have Red #40, a dye made out of petroleum. If he had an allergic reaction to it, you never would have known he had fruit loops in his bottle if you had not caught her. Just no MIL Just No!!!
Story 2 - "it's just a ring, why are you overreacting?" If it's just a ring, why exactly is the daughter-in-law and flying the monkeys so bent out of shape over it?
Story 1: These "friends" need to get a clue. If I had a friend who DIDN'T tell me when my partner was cheating, they'd no longer BE my friend.
Right? That wouldn't be a "friend."
I think looking out for your friend who's being cheated on and telling them is being a true friend. I wish I had a friend like OP
My first thought was "are those friends guys or gals?" cuz isn't it part of girl code to let them know when their significant other isn't being faithful??
Red Flag: ratting to family to form gang - loss of control = rage and manipulative.
It doesn't matter if they're men or women, nobody, that is a decent person will let their friend get cheated on @@pearlthenephilim
"The lion, the witch, the AUDACITY of this bee-yotch..." Bro, that was awesome 🤣
"The clients at my hair salon are all chronically on reddit and they saw this post in the last few hours and all called to cancel their appointments because they just assumed I'm the type of person who would be a ring-stealing biatch." Hahaha yeah right Jenna. That totally happened.
2- NTA, is she crazy? It’s YOUR husband's wedding ring! That ring is litterly a symbol of your union with your husband!
Updates- lock the ring in a safe or deposit box and update your will
It seems to me to being more of a power-play than anything. When she calls it 'controlling' to not borrow the wedding ring she is heavily projecting.
If she was allowed to "borrow" it, I guarantee OP would never see it again. Jenna is trying to turn herself into the Matriarch by canceling the OP.
NC with that b word.
I would also tell the person receiving it in the will that you never wanted your dil to have it. That way when you die, they are not likely to be pressured to "fix a mistake" because dil is telling them that you promised her she could have it, but didn't fix the will in time
Story 2: Its concerning that Jenna knew about the post like 5 minutes after OP made it. That happened to me once because my ex-husband was stalking me and I made a throw away blog post about finding out that he had a new (barely legal) girlfriend. This is really scary for OP, she needs to figure out what's going on here.
Kinda sounds like you were stalking him too. Why TF are you making posts about your ex husbands new girlfriend? Thats just weird lady.
I don’t think the story is real
@dillongage Maybe it was before it was their ex husband/seperated but not divorced? Idk If someone's stalkinge I'm gonna want all the info I can and I would be mega weirded out to find out someone was stalking me while they had a new partner.
She didn't want the ring to feel "closer" she's just greedy for a gold ring, or for performative closeness.
The slow fade in of the “the lion, the witch, and the audacity of this bitch” meme got an irl laugh out of me. Thanks Vincey 😂
Story 2: Assuming that the DIL is losing customer's to the reddit post, my theory is that the DIL told some clients about the situation and the reddit post thinking to get some sympathy or confirmation and then was surprised that the clients took OP's side. Karma at its finest.
Story 2: if it's just a ring, why does son's girlfriend want it? Aesthetically it's basic. Yeah, dil knows how important it is
Daughter-in-law. Married to son. Not "girlfriend."
"I don't want to create tension within the family."
Then be assertive! The best way to make sure there's no tension is if everything is clear.
You say "No. End of story. Do NOT ask again."
Be confident and communication will be way clearer.
S2: Reddit must have been _salivating_ at the opportunity to address DIL and son directly. 😆
Story 2: The only way she'd lose clients over this is if she's actively *telling people* about this, what are the odds random people find a reddit thread with only first names and instantly know who it is rather than the thousands of other people with the same name? She is 100% lying.
Story 4: So the MIL has a history of being physically a busive to children. And is not sorry. Absolutely not.
Also, the family saying OP should let it go because the baby is okay... Right. The baby IS okay... this time. If someone kept pushing your child into the street you wouldn't think it's okay because they avoided traffic this time. You'd know they're an ongoing danger.
Story 2: I wouldn’t be surprised if that daughter in law’s plan was to take that ring right to a ‘cash for gold’ place. She’s upset that Reddit is helping convince OP not to hand it over and ruining her con.
The wedding ring……..how dare she! I lost my late husband 5 years ago and I could not and will not let someone have it. My husband and I did paranormal investigations for years together and now when I do them I make sure he’s with me. His ring is on a chain around my neck when my team and I investigate.
The fact they messaged OP at the end saying "we should keep this between us" to me says they KNOW what their doing is wrong
@ absolutely 100%
that is so cool 🥺
Love that you take him with you. 🥺🖤
I'd never speak to her again.
Story 7: I hate that OP has let redditors convince her that she failed somehow. If people take ALL the leftovers, they know what they're doing. You take something, you don't take everything. Just because OP and her husband didn't watch over everyone's shoulder and showed a little (unfounded, as it turns out) trust doesn't mean it's their fault people did this. But at least they now know their family will happily leave them in the lurch.
Right? I can't believe people are bashing her for relaxing after cooking 2 full turkeys, 20 lb of mashed potatoes and stuffing plus what ever other fixings and desserts she made. That's at LEAST 24 hours of prep work, still has to clean after the gathering but she should have had to babysit grown ass people to boot? Did hubby or any of the other guests help in any way? Doesn't sound like it.
Not to mention they took back unopened dessert they brought as well. The least you can do is open it, leave some for the host and take the rest. It seems like that person contributed nothing. Plus you dont just take all the food you brought. You leave some for others and for the host. That is just crappy behavior.
Right? OP shouldn't have to supervise to make sure people are showing basic manners. They could've left _at least_ one portion per person at the host's house, but they didn't. Instead, they simply cleared them out! That's honestly such a rude thing to do to the people who hosted and cooked for you.
Leaving the host, especially after having prepared a ton of food themselves, without any leftovers is such bad etiquette. Like as a child I wouldn’t even consider doing something like that and we aren’t some fancy smancey family
Story 2. There are jewelers who can make say a pendant out of the late husband's ring and even her ring mixed in, so she can wear it. I've seen several videos of this being done and it's really lovely
She shouldn't have even asked about the ring. I'm sure her bf knew how much it means and should have shut her down before it even happened
Post 2, Jenna whispering “my precious” to the wedding ring. . . .
Story 1: If any friend needs permission to break up my relationship if my girlfriend or wife cheats, here it is. That's part of being my friend, I'd trust you to tell me these things, and I will never blame you for telling the truth.
That should cover all of the objections from the "friends".
Story 2: I love the "you made me look bad" - as long as OP told the truth, she made herself look bad.
Story 4: Fruit Loops? Even if this was a good idea, why would you use something that sugary?
Sounds like she shouldn't be allowed to visit, even with cameras.
They have baby cereal for when the baby is a little older.
@@kittyKatfish we all know that’s not what dear Grandma was going to use
@aduckofsomesort I was just saying that what you are supposed to use.
Jenna is being very clear on the fact that she is NOT part of OP's family by acting like this
That Lila one REALLY confused me after the misreading of OPs grandma's name, "Dalila," with sister naming dog Lila lol. I was like, isn't OP reaching a bit?
BTW, I appreciate the text being left up for these wordy reddit stories.
Same
Post 6: why did the husband even have plans to go to a football game so close to your delivery date if he wasn't okay with likely canceling? My best friend wasn't in my wedding last spring because it was 2 weeks before her due date and just too much going on for her to handle with not knowing when she'd go into labor and I completely understood that!
Watching Chia in the background proving cats are actually a slow liquid, like glass, was both a little distracting and adorable.
3:38 OMG??!??!?! I was NOT expecting that!!! that was hilarious, I hope you do it in future videos too 😂
That was high quality and hilarious. 😆
Same omfg 😭 completely unexpected, got a big chuckle out of me lmfaooo
It was gold.
PS: Post 2, OP needs to make sure that her will leaves the ring to someone, ANYONE, other than Jenna. Or maybe stipulate that it's buried with her.
Story 4: My first child was almost entirely bottle-fed, grew like a weed, and fairly early on we had to add cereal into his bottle. That did not mean fruit loops. You are meant to buy very finely ground boxes of cereal powder that you can then mix with the milk or formula.
Jenna is MENTAL she's not even OP's actual daughter and she's being so entitled over it
Story 6 OP doesn't have a husband, she has a 3rd child, and a horrible one
His attitude is horrendous. You can catch up on a football game you can't catch up on his daughters meeting for the first time
@@Venemofthe888 FR you can record it, you can't record people/moments you're not a part of😭
Wholesome wedding band story time: my parents divorced a decade before this, when I was 9, but they were both really involved in my life and despite them not liking each other much, they made all the efforts in the world to gove me the best life possible. All that to say that their wedding rings did not mean much to them but it did to me. After my dad passed away from cancer, my mom gave me both of their wedding bands, and I turned them into a necklace, with the smaller one attached in the other ring. I also added a little heart in the middle. Now, I always have a part of my family with me
S2: Let's say SIL was losing clients because of this. The only way that would happen is if _she_ went around telling everyone she knows about the post and broadcasting it from her socials. How else would people know a post, that has no real names or location mind you, was about her? Yeah, I call bs and she's just using this to manipulate her husband into turning against Op more. That woman is such a headache, maybe it's for the best that Op gets the silent treatment from her son because maybe she wouldn't have to put up with her.
Story 7: how could anyone consider OP the AH for simply being upset that her guests took all the leftovers? She kept those feelings to herself (other than posting to ask for advice), she did not confront the guests and call them names or shame them, she was merely asking if she was right to feel taken advantage of.
Story 5: relate so hard. I've been calling this my "emergency room" year. Instead of brat summer or even a vintage hot girl summer, i had "hot wheelchair summer". It can be hard to tell how much of your anger is because of the pain or because people are actually being unreasonable and its often easier to blame yourself as the problem because it takes so much energy to defend yourself and you need that energy just to exist. And sometimes the pain and the grief of becoming disabled does make you TAH, it hurts emotionally and psychologically sometimes more than it does physically, you just can't be around intentionally hurtful people, you literally can't survive that kind of energy drain when you're chronically ill.
Anyway wish me luck with my ekg and blood tests today lol
Story 2: There is NO WAY a post is making her lose clients unless Jenna herself is telling them about it and admitting her insane and selfish demand. SHE is making herself look bad.
With the food situation- I always hosted & made a lot of food. What I learned, early was to put away the food we wanted to keep and leave what was available to take on the kitchen table (we ate in the dining room). We also provided bags & to go Rubbermaid, but I made it clear, take what you want FROM the kitchen table. Our leftovers were out away. Yes, it was a PITA to do that after all the cooking & serving, but I wanted my own pumpkin pie for breakfast the next day 😅😅😅. Usually people don't mean harm or anything, but they will take home everything if you're not careful & are a good cook.
Story 2: "keep things within the family" is only appropriate for the mafia.
I hate when dads are seen as babysitters not the other parents. Mothers are not solely responsible for the care of children.
Woah! Cereal in a bottle for a 4 month old refers to putting a tiny amount of baby rice cereal into the formula to thicken it slightly. NOT FRUIT LOOPS! That is batshit! Omg
exactly what I thought when the cereal was first mentioned until OP said there were fruit loops in the bottle SMH
You can't give water to a 4-month old, let alone fruit loops
Post 2: Jenna lurks AITA but has no self-awareness.
Story 6: Look, I like sports, too, but for the love, you've just become a parent. This jerk should have given both tickets to his friend so someone else could go to the game. Sometimes life happens, and is more important than a football game.
Right? Also, the husband cannot be trusted with the kids. What if he is alone parenting them and he is watching a football game on TV. Will he ignore cries from his kids? Will he forget to feed them? Will he hurt them to stay quiet because he cannot watch the game in peace? That is dangerous behavior right there. So many babies die due to parents obsessed with sports or video games.
10:58 OP is not making her look bad. What is happening is that Jenna is whining to her clients about the problem, and every single client is looking at her like a repugnant pile of trash and cutting ties immediately.
If it's even actually happening outside of Jenna's conniving imagination.
I clocked that one as fake immediately, most people really cannot write dialogue
Story 5: So the Dad, husband, and other adults know what the mom is doing but didn’t say anything? Won’t lie, I don’t want to assume the husband and dad haven’t addressed this before and want to believe they have possibly tried to mitigate it in some way but yeah they should’ve said something and made it so OP and her children weren’t exposed to this absolutely awful person.
Oh yeah OP is NTA obviously. I forgot to say that in the top portion
It's interesting to me that Reddit immediately jumped to OP's mom being a narcissistic abuser, but also humped all over OPs dad for being an enabler, instead of understanding that OP's dad is just as much of a victim of abuse as OP. Can't ahve it both ways Reddit. IO's mom is either an abuser and her husband is a victim, or she is just a weird jerk and the husband is an enabler.
Kitty Cat report from my walks.
So i went a different route today and saw this lovely cat on top of a parked car doing its bread impression. Lovely black and white cat where it was black on top and white on bottom with lovely yellow/green eyes
Cute 😊
The moment she got that ring it would be sold for quick cash
Yeah, I was immediately suspicious of DIL. If she were allowed to “borrow” it she would then “lose” it or make up other excuses to never return it.
Story #3: If it was real, I would want OP to absolutely use the name she wants and her sister will have to live through OP's daughter outliving her dog and having to hear her dog's name constantly all her life.
Story 2: Dude is the ring some kind of antique or vintage name brand? Is that why she really wants it? I'd love to say she could't want it just to "be closer to the faaaaaaamily" but the stupid is rampant nowadays and unfortunately could just be a hard case of the "gimmie-gimmie's" from an entitled brat who has never heard the word "no."
To be fair, the stupid has always been rampant. Technology has just made it easier for it to spread rapidly.
Story 4 yeah no she's a monster, OP's husband needs to get it together
Story 2: My grandma gave me a ring that my grandpa had made for her after he passed away. I never asked for it, but she wanted to share it with me anyway. I wear it every single day. OP’s DIL is ridiculously out of line. I would have never asked my own grandma for her ring, so why does the DIL think that this is in any way acceptable?
AITA?!
AITA for ignoring my roommate's messages each morning until I've watched a new episode of Vincey with my three furrbabies? 😅
As long as you text back afterwards and it’s nothing urgent NTA lol
Depends, are the messages "can you pass me a TP roll, plz?" or "locked myself out."
I wish we could see the furbabies. (Says I, snuggling under a blanket with my cat.)
Ok I am an idiot and don’t have kids but cereal in a bottle?! For a baby?! Smacking a baby?! That woman should not be around kids. Damn.
S1: if it’s not a friend’s place to reveal the betrayal, then whose is it? Do they expect her to be cheated on until she finds herself in possession of another girl’s bra or maybe another girl’s STI?
Story 5 my immediate worry for op when her mom was commenting about the smile was "oh no is it a stroke" but no it's just the mom being a biiiitttccchhhh
When you said cereal in the bottle I thought it was baby cereal and I was like oh that’s not bad if your pediatrician has okayed it (we did that with my son) but then you said Froot Loops and I was like wtf😮. Also spanking has been proven over and over again to not work especially on young kids, you hit your kids while also trying to teach them not to hit, its never made sense to me. My grandpa spanked me once for leaving a leash out, and while yes I never did that again, I also never went back to stay a summer with him to be able to leave a leash out.
Story 5: NTA
I have a list of things that my mother said to me that I would never say to any child I would have. There are numerous comments about the way I smiled. I rarely take pictures of myself bc all I can think are my mom's comments.
Story 6: Your husband is pissed at you for having another girl, OP.
Story 2: It also sounds like Jenna is married already, so she has a ring.
I might have been understanding if it was to be her wedding ring, but that doesn't seem to be the case.
Post 2: I believe Jenna just wanted the ring for herself. Possibly with a story about how special the moment was.
Story 6: Better to get an IUD or something.
Story 2: It would mean more to HER than to OP? Look, she didn't even KNOW OP's husband, I'd bet, and she can get right out of here with that [meow]. Good call on the visual for that one, Vincey. 🤣
Also, I heavily disagree with the comment. Even if it were the husband's child requesting the ring, no. The husband married OP, it's OP's ring to keep and nobody else's unless he willed it to someone else.
As for the whole "borrowing" thing, OP would have clearly never seen the ring again. I love when people ask to borrow something and you know full well what their intentions are.
Also also, she had no right to even ask. And in case she gets so far as to read comments here, get bonked, Jenna. And the only way she'd be losing customers is if SHE is complaining about it on the job and they're seeing how vile she is.
The DIL claiming to have lost clients due to OP's Reddit post is either lying about it or else the DIL was the one who told her clients about the post thinking they'd all be on her side and instead her clients discover she's a massive AH. Those are the only reasonable conclusions given the available facts. DIL needs to be a better person, because right now, she's failing dismally to be a decent human being.
Story 2: OP needs somewhere more secure to keep the ring.
2, NTA. OP needs to move somewhere else, keep everything in a safe that _ONLY_ *you* have the code to. Maybe even in a bank.
Story 6, NTA. Divorce and _either_ full custody *or* 50/50 custody.
LOOK AT THE KITTIES!
story 2: Oh no, people saw what I did and now they don't like me! That's totally your fault!
Story 2: is this fiancé a longshoreman? Why would she want a man’s wedding ring does she plan on altering it? Jeez
No, she plans on selling it.
I wear my mother's and great grandmother's wedding rings around my neck. No one is getting them, they will go into the ground with me.
Post 1- if someone knew my partner was cheating, or being a dick to servers, or hurting puppies or littering for chrissakes, they better tell me. And I would expect them to tell my partner if I did anything effed up.
Story 2-Once again someone feels entitled to someone else's belongings. I've heard something like this so many dang times involving either blood relatives or people that married into the family. No one, and I mean NO ONE decides what you do with your things besides you. Imagine bullying your MIL or anyone because you decide you want something that they have. Sounds like OP has at least some support, and I hope she stands firm. Do not let anyone take the ring from you OP, or anything else of yours. I have no doubt she would 'lose' it to keep it for herself or sell it because of what she said about the ring. You let it out of your sight you will never get it back.
The vultures are starting to fly to see what they can pick from you before your even dead. I agree with another comment about updating your will. OP shouldn't have to lock up her own property though because someone wants to 'borrow' it. Make sure no one else has keys to your home so it doesn't go 'missing' and invest in cameras.
16:05 I mean are we actually surprised? They ended their update with "Thanks for the gold, dear stranger!"
Thats the most chronic redditor thing you could ever possibly say. That and Emma was cartoonishly mean.
I'm very sunburned and have been lying on my bed all day. 😢 These videos are helping distract from the stinging and itching.
Ouch. Hope you have something to help soothe.
Oh, I hope you get well soon. Remember to hydrate. It helps you to heal faster
The second story made me so mad. Who are Jenna or the son to be chastising or guilt tripping OP as if she’s a child acting out??? It’s infantalizing and disrespectful. I’m so offended for OP and it’s not even my family or my ring. Jenna’s also straight up lying about her clients - unless all of her clients are really big fans of Reddit for some reason, there’s no way they found this post and started dropping her unless she told them about that situation and it turned them off for it. This is going to be the entire relationship with Jenna unless someone else becomes her target. She’s a spoiled brat
Story 2: OP's not embarrassing "the family"; she's embarrassing you, son and wife, which wouldn't be possible if you weren't behaving so shamefully.
hey vincey can you please add a link to the stories you read? sometimes there is an update you dont cover or the post/user is deleted.
Watching this while sitting in the cold and windy sun of my backyard, throwing the ball for my dog
No contact with Jenna, her son and her damn interfering family.
Cheaters saying "It was just one mistake" is like someone who gathers wood and shaves it with a knife, strikes the knife with flint multiple times until the fire is going, fanning it until it's huge and going "oh no the fire just accidentally happened"
Chia.. what’re ye doin?
i've never been this early to a vincey video! i was doing smth else and thought i wanted to check for vincey uploads and it was here!
Same
I am enjoying this episode of Catwatch Daily. 😂
I seriously thought story 5 was heading towards a stroke that caused temporary paralysis and the mom was actually right.
😂 silly, silly me!
Story 5: OP's far better off without mom.
If her husband‘s wedding band doesn’t fit snuggly on her finger, she probably can’t wear it every day, but I’ve seen plenty of examples of memorial pendants being made out of the deceased partners band. All they do is attach a piece to the top of it so that it can stay on a necklace without getting scuffed up by the chain and she could wear it every day
Story 3: Emma’s the female dog in this situation. How unnecessarily mean and selfish.
Story 3 yeah no she clearly showed she doesn't care about you
Edit: and OP doesn't care about anyone 😂
Story 1: I was in the same situation as OP, but I didn't have the wherewithall to film because I was so shocked at the time. It happened in the middle of the day between classes our senior year, where both my friend and her boyfriend were well known as a COUPLE, so the likelihood of the cheater being caught was insanely high. My friend was away that day on a school project, but many, many people knew they were together for a while at that point, and here he was making out with some random underclassman for all to see.
I told my friend right away, but she never believed me and married that idiot not long after. They got engaged and married very quickly against both their families' wishes. Low and behold, he cheated on and abused her for years before HE divorced HER and disappeared from her life that he had now ruined. I wish I had pulled out my damn phone.
Normally I listen to Vincey videos in the background while I do other things, but today I'm watching, and with that graphic in the second story, I was not disappointed.
Story 2 - Why would a GIRL want a MAN’S ring?? It’s not like men and women’s rings would fit on each other because of the way they’re designed? I recon she’s planning to pawn it for money or alter it into some other jewellery for herself. Why she wants a men’s piece of jewellery is the real question I’m thinking about.
HOW DARE RUclips HIDE THIS FROM ME FOR 5 MINUTES
Story 2: age needs to put her husband's ring on a necklace to wear so Jenna can't steal it.
And put it in a locked box whenever she is sleeping or showering or otherwise not wearing it.
Story 7: My guess is that the guests assumed because of op and her husband clocking out the guests assumed they already had taken their portion of leftovers
Story 2: The ring is not sentimental to the daughter any more than a toaster her dad bought is. The ring is just pretty and her dad is an excuse. It’s a symbol of the op and her late husband’s love, which means NOTHING to the daughter if she doesn’t even respect her stepmother’s strong connection to it. EDIT: It’s not even the girl’s dad’s? She’s a daughter in law?? What an entitled KOOK!!!
Story 3: redditors really think no one can check their history??? If ur gonna lie for internet points at least be smart about it
It's almost amazing the lack of effort these people put into this stuff. Why they aren't IP-banned is beyond me.
They deleted all their post history as some other people pointed it out 🤦♂️
10:02 get a fake one and give it to her is how id go. Or at least BUY a fake one so she cant steal the real one
The baby cerael one, I was on grandma's side because when the baby gets older milk isn't enough to fill them so most doctors recommend putting baby cereal in milk so they have something more on their tummy and its a good way to start introducing food.
Then I found out the baby was only 4 months, no where near the age for that.
And the cereal was fruit loops, something very sugary and (at least here in America) the dyes can have Red #40, a dye made out of petroleum. If he had an allergic reaction to it, you never would have known he had fruit loops in his bottle if you had not caught her.
Just no MIL
Just No!!!
Story 2 - "it's just a ring, why are you overreacting?"
If it's just a ring, why exactly is the daughter-in-law and flying the monkeys so bent out of shape over it?
Hey Vincey, just wanted you to know that you and your channel brighten my day! Keep up the terrific job! Ps. Love the kitty's too.